I am being stalked and harrased, what can I do/?
An ex friend of mine is stalking me, harrassing me, he constanlty texts abusive messages, makes abusive calls, Ihave to change my phone numbers constantly but some how he gets hold of them. He has hit me , broke my belongings and spread lies about me. He has now started blackmailing me..and scaring my family
What can I do help ..please help someone
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you poor thing, why havent you been to the police...whatever you do dont summit to his blackmailing, he sounds like real scum
good luck
Report you to the police for what?
Report him to the police immediately. Don't think that they're too busy or that the abuse isn't serious enough, he's broken a number of laws, he has harassed you, he's made threats, blackmailed you, damaged your possessions, and he has been physically violent towards you, he doesn't have a leg to stand on, they will arrest him for questioning straight away and they will make sure he wont be able to go near you ever again, make sure you gather some evidence (texts, letters, emails) and witnesses together before you go though to make your case stronger. Why are you scared of him reporting you to the police? If you havent done anything wrong then they have no reason to be suspicious of you
You must take the law into your own hands. Purchase a gun from the black market and some grenades. Dress in camouflaged clothing and barricade yourself in the park. Design a banner that says 'freedom for the monkeys' and bobs your uncle. Really, he is.
The most obvious thing would be to go to the police. Even if he is blackmailing you it is not worth risking your life. When you have told the police they can protect you from him anyway.
you report him to the police
u should really call thecops if its serious
keep all the evidence, like the mail, text messages , everything.
will need it for courts, if any.
go to the police and report. show him/her the evidence if they don't bother to do anything.and if the police still dont do anything look for their chief.
I agree, if he has nothing against you, than report him to the police. If he does, I mean there's only so much you can do. But still, if it gets seriously out of hand, and if it's a matter of your health and safety, of course the police should be involved!
And remember, don't delete or get rid of any of the things he's done to you. You'll need concrete evidence if you intend to get the police to help.
Shoot him.
If your friend is stalking you, i suggest you either confront him and sort out and solve what damage has been done.
Or if you want to take legal action, keep a diary, film what happens, etc.
Or talk to your family, and suggest changes, perhaps move away if necessary.
Whatever you do, don't sink to his/her levels, do let him/her see how much they are getting to you, otherwise it will backfire on you, and they shall be worse.
Even throw away your mobile/sim altogether, and get something more satisfactory and safe to use, don't give your friends the number, or they may give you away.
Question the fact, that they might be going through something you might not know about.
Don't fight back, but remain calm.
How long has this been happening
I feel really sorry for you
and i hope something happens sooner than later!
Contact the police or childline now depending on age
*You* go to the police and keep all evidence as others have said,
These or similar *will* help you too -
http://www.refuge.org.uk/
Best wishes,
Joan.
you have your right to be free, report him first to the police or if you know any human rights activist go there and lunch your complain and he could be bonded and jailed if he brakes the bond.
2. you can change your state without given information to any one of your friend except your parent.
Simple:
1. Stop talking to / acknowleging him - when you throw phones away just because of him you are giving him the importance & attention he craves
2. Do not return fire
3. Get ALL your friends & neighbours to collect exact time & date lists of things THEY have witnessed him doing & keep supplying all this to the police
... and if all else fails, murder him! ... Just kidding (consider moving to another city, or pretending you are going to)
2 things you must remember...
It is against the law to blackmail anyone (in the UK.) It is withholding information from the law that could save another human being from being blackmailed!!!!!!
2)... If you get more than ten unsolicited or unwanted calls in the UK within a month THIS IS HARRASMENT.!
If you cannot the police to put a tap on your phone then you automatically qualify for insurance of (Your telephone provider),
They must give you a new number and ( if you report it) they must put a tap on your phone.(at your request).
This law only applies to the UNITED KINGDOM OF GREAT BTITAIN
Cant you move away and cut all ties ,,with this low life,,,,
The reasons for the differences, if any, that might have arised between you both are not mentioned here by you. What is he expecting from you? Try to solve the problem amicably or else proceed legally if you have sufficient evidences that he is harrassing/blackmailing etc., Generally, 'Blackmailing' occures only when you have joined your hands with him for some time for the evil things or any illegal matters or the things which were not accepted by the society/home/law.Think yourself and solve the problem. you are the best person to judge in this mattter than any body else.
I think you should ignore him totally. Guys like them only want to get attention by scaring you, they like to see reactions. If you'll stop reacting to what he's doing he'll probably stop doing all this. And you must report it to police, even if they dont think this matter is not serous enough to take action, atleast if something happens in the future they'll know he had a previous record.
Firstly i don't believe a thing you are saying ,as you wouldn't be asking this question on here as you would have gone straight to the law.
Secondly i reckon you're as bent as a nine bob note,and also a troll.
i will sort it,but it costs
Keep the messages, get a log from the phone company how many times he's called your place, keep a journal on what he says and take it all to the police.
If you change your number keep the old one so he can scream at it all he wants. Only give your number to good friends and tell them not to give it out to other people.
Strange as it may seem but is this guy your ex-boyfriend? He sounds a bit obsessive and the fact that he's actually managed to break your belongings just leads me to believe that.
Go to the Police NOW
Change your phone once more
Ignore him completely - if you say something back, he gets your new number.
Go x-directory at home
Peace and good luck
you have to get a barring order against him and i am not sure how you can do that but i would say go to your police station report what you have and tell them. if possible record and keep all incidents of where he has sent messages and give them to the police. the main thing is this guy needs a shock so i suggest you go to a cop you know and tell him first if a sergant all the better and just ask him to have a word in his ear and tell him that you are recording all his messages and giving them to your solicitor and the police. think of it like this he is a coward and will only stop when the thing gets risky for him. do not spread lies about him do as that will only make things worse.
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Report it to your local police station.
Notify your local law enforcement agency, police department & prosecutor's office, & informed them of your ordeals. They will eliminate your stalking & harassment problems!
Many states have PERSONAL PROTECTION ORDERS. Usually it is for people that were living together or dating but it is possible for someone to get one against ANYONE who is stalking them ... although with the facts you describe it may take a court hearing (worse case it would require prior notice to him of the hearing so.. ).
You need to keep his emails, txt messages, voice messages, etc. and call the police... make a police report.. Then go to the county court and ask for the procedures to get a PPO.. it may take a court hearing but it sounds like it would be worth it..
Thereafter if he contacts you he could be jailed..
Go to the police. It sounds as though he breaking the Harrassment Act plus others.
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