How can we as a society try to reverse the rate of divorce?
In my opinion, its too easy for people to get divorced. Needless to say, some will have legitimate reasons. But too often, people get divorced for such trivial arguements and things its laughable.
What happened to "till death do us part"? What about kids that have to live in a messy situation until they are 18? What about all the money that is squandered with divorce? How can we reverse the divorce rate?
This is a detriment to our society and must be reversed. This is also leading to a decline in birthrates.
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I read recently that the divorce rate is actually declining a little, but only because there aren't as many people getting married in the first place. They are living together instead. Frankly, I have no problem with adults marrying, divorcing, cohabiting, or engaging in serial relationships. I have a BIG problem when they have children, however. Life is hard enough without having the extra burden of an unstable home life. Children deserve all the security they can get. This lack of stability that is running rampant effects our entire society. But this doesn't speak to your question.
I think the divorce rate is a reflection of a bigger problem---the fact that our culture has changed such that too many people put themselves and their needs first. For too many people, it's all about THEM. I'm not sure how to reach people who are that self-centered. Perhaps we can just do the best we can to live a stable, serving, noble life. Perhaps if there are enough of us, we can demonstrate by example the pleasure that comes from a committed and functional family unit. It won't happen overnight, but then, neither did the problem.
How about we as a society stay out of people's business, including their marriages or lack thereof? :-)
If the couple would get on their knees and pray about it first before they marry then that alone would cut the divorce rate by 37.9 %.and if couples were also charged 10.000 dollars to divorce that would cut it by 96 %,AND if people would keep up with cleaning up after themselves and not depend on their partner to clean up after them then that with all what i said would cut it down to zero.divorce rate.Y'all do know that this an educated opinion not dependent on external opinions or studies.which would contradict me and then i would of course have to get redneck on them.
Peace
I was planning on writing a book called, "The Decline of Marriage in the 20th Century." I may just go ahead and start to write it.
Well there's nothing you can do about it really. Every person makes their own choice, but if I could choose for them, I'd make everyone read "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus"...and then there are two other books "For Men Only" and "For Women Only". I know...cheesy answer, but those books are really good and help understand each other. I believe that's all there is to it.
well in the 50s people married for love , today people marry for sex , come up with a solution and you will solve the problem because I can't either
I would say that the problem is not that there is too much divorce, instead I would say that there is too much marriage.
I think that it is too easy for someone to get married. No one takes it seriously and it is just the trendy thing to do. I believe that divorce is something necessary as it is better to be raised in a broken home than in a home that is full of anger, violence or arguing. At least it allows peace for those that may be suffering due to an abusive spouse.
On the same token, if people would actually go back to the art of "courting" and have honor, there would be less single moms and shotgun wedding scenarios. There are a lot of people out there that are having premarital sex, and then using that as a measuring stick to determine whether or not they should marry someone. I think that we should go back to dating only those that seem to be good partners if that is what we are looking for, and I also think that people need to be less loose, increasing the quality of the marriage pool.
YES...stop getting maried to start with
Don`t marry till your 30
What "messy situation?" Having to move between parents every so often? Trust me, as a child of divorce, it is better that some people live apart. Living a lie will hurt the children more in the long run.
There is nothing wrong with a decline in birth rates. There are wayyyyyyyyy too many people on this planet gobbling up resources. A lower birth rate will lead to a roomier, happier equilibrium for everyone involved.
one important instrument to prevent divorce is children. in 99% cases of attempted divorces, love of children by both husband and wife prevented pursuing divorce. what is happening is one percent. and this one percent can further be reduced if there is way of preventing consumption of alcohol. if one see the background of misunderstanding between husband and wife, the eruption normally starts during the period of intoxication. in many cases, this will not subside even after withdrawal symptom of intoxication and hence become a reason for divorce. how to prevent consumption of alcohol should be the main concern!
Well, we can OUTLAW divorce, and then we'll have zero divorce rate!
Look: it's easy to dismiss someone else's reasons for divorce as "trivial" and "laughable"; it's a lot harder when YOU are the one stuck in a bad situation. And who is to decide what's "trivial"? For some people, even physical abuse is "trivial" unless it results in death. What's laughable to you may not be so laughable to the next person -- and that, without even considering the fact that people outside the marriage rarely get an accurate picture of what is really happening.
Additionally, putting restrictions on divorce would repair problems only on the surface. I don't think there is even one precedent where a court's denial of divorce has resulted in a reconciliation. If one spouse does not want to be with the other and cannot get a divorce, he or she will simply move out and contend with informal separation. You can deny divorce, but unless you amend the US Constitution, you won't be able to force people to live together.
Finally, don't pretend that divorce is the only "messy situation" that children may have to live in. A marriage that's one in name only, in which it is plain as day that Mommy and Daddy don't care for each other one bit, is probably more damaging to children than a divorce: not only does it fail to prevent them from witnessing a marriage break down, but it also teaches them that it's okay to lead a double life, to go through the motions, to put on a front.
Keep in mind that while the US has a high divorce rate, it also has a very high marriage rate. When the rate of divorce is represented by comparison with the marriage rate, the US is about 14th on the world list. Make divorce harder -- and you'll see fewer marriages. Or more Haitian divorces.
EDITED to answer Asker's update: Great, so you can imagine how it would feel if someone decided your situation was "trivial" and "laughable". Or are you talking about the children's situation? Anyone can talk about anything, but what makes you think YOUR situation illustrates anything about someone else's? Again, we have this problem of presumption.
Not supporting hypocritical Republicans who talk about "protecting traditional marriage" and then have sex with prostitutes (Vitter), proposition senate pages (Foley), divorce their wives (Gingrich, Thompson, Guiliani, Limbaugh.)
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