Can I refuse him to be alowed at visit with kids?
OK I am a stepmom who has been ordered by the court to supervise the birth Mother while she visits the kids on the weekends after not seeing them for three years. Any way she has a husband who she has reported and i have witnessed being very abuseive to her. My worry is if she brings him on a supervised visit can i say no and make him leave. I really am scared for the kids safety and Mine. He is very abusive and has a record longer then I'am tall and she told me he is on perole for attemted murder and they will be coming from another state. So can I refuse him to be around the kids. We have not recived a copy of the court orders yet. and with another weekend visit around the corner I'm scared for our safty. Should he arrive with her.
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Why would you have accepted being the supervisor, there are more appropriate places that would keep all parties out of harms way. I suggest you go to court again...ASAP..with a different attorney.
Get the court order to specify that only SHE gets to come to the visitations...you may have to talk to the attorney about it...be honest about your reasons and fears
The visits are with her and the kids not him. So yes you can tell him he is not allowed to visit. Not only that but if he is abusive then you need to report that she is bring him around. There are reasons her visits are to be surpervised and the courts want to know what kind of life she is living. He is her life and there for if it puts the kids at risk they would want to know that also. I would report it, but make sure you have his first and last name when you do. You might want to take notes about his actions and so on so that you have it in writing when you report it .
Contact someone within the DCFS system. They will tell you what you can and can't do.
Personally, I would think that you have the "power" to do that. In being ordered to supervise these visits, you have basically been trusted by the courts to look out for the safety and welfare of the children. Obviously seeing their mother abused by another person isn't the way to do that. And he has no "vested interest" in visiting with the children other than being married to their mother, so he isn't really needed in the visits. I would think that if he does anything harmful to her or the children, you have the right to end the visit immediately, and inform the mother that you will not allow any other visits where he is present. But again, I would check with DCFS.
You will have to go to court and make that part of the deal.
I don't know if every State has what NYS has, but we have Law Guardians assigned to the children. The Law Guardian is not there to side with any other party other than what's in the best interest of the children. If your State has such thing, I would contact him or her immediately and I'm sure he or she will instruct you on how to handle this situation.
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