I have looked after my dad who died of cancer two weeks ago I feel like doing nothing now like a bad flu help?
He only died two weeks ago is this grief?? should I not just push myself and get on with it
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Sorry for your loss, move at your own pace, no one can tell you how to deal with this, its a personal thing, but if you feel the need to talk to someone then do it, it can help you a lot.MAY THE GREAT SPIRIT BLESS YOUR DAD....
I'm no doctor, but you sound like you have a pretty major case of depression.
I would see a doctor as soon as you can. This type of depression is very common, but if left untreated can just spiral downhill.
It is definately grief give yourself at least a month or so to start moving on with your life, everyone heals at a different pace. Also if you feel that your not going ot be able to move on talk to your doctor, he may be able to prescribe you some anti-depressants or recomend a good therapist to talk to!
Just remember your not alone, I just lost my grandfather last week of lung disease and It's not easy no matter who you are or how strong you think you are, you really should talk to someone though, a friend a family member, or even a stranger, talking always seems to help!
I'm so sorry for your loss, sweetie. I went through that same thing for weeks after my 15 year old daughter died after an 18 month terminal illness. I think it was grief coming out as illness. I just felt I had a bad flu, was achy, fatigued, and just could not do hardly anything. Once I went back to work it got better very quickly. Just make yourself get out and do something.
It's a huge loss, reach out to your loved ones, you're going through something bigger than the flu. It isn't as if you lost your car keys. Keys can be replaced.
Be gentle with yourself. I'm so sorry for your loss.
sorry for your loss, but of course you are grieving. This was you dad not a stranger. It's ok to feel sad, even relieved that he is no longer suffering. You should not push yourself, but I wouldn't think it would be good for you to hide away either. Take it slow go to dinner with a friend or spouse if married. You are exhausted from care giving and the funeral. Take a little time to recharge before you get sick yourself.
its hard sorry to hear that my dad died 4 yrs ago from cancer and I'm still not over it i don't think you ever do get over it but i always tell myself too keep going and keep trying even though i have been through this i still find it hard to give advice i guess that's just an indication that i still haven't dealt with it properly. i felt the same way in a way i felt like i wanted to die to. it does get better though bit by bit but i think its something that will always be with you i know not a day goes by that i don't think about it. i don't know what else to say and in the end of the day its up to you how you choose to deal with it i think in the end things will be okay, we will all meet our end. good luck with things and i hope you can be strong and get through the time you have ahead
Barbara, I'm sorry for your loss.
You have devoted your energy and emotions to making your Dad's illness as comfortable as possible.
Of course there is grief, as there must be.
But it is much more than that.
You are drained, you are lost, you are empty, and to some extent you are even relieved.
It's all natural.
Your Dad's life has come to a successful conclusion. You need to get your energy back, fill the time you always devoted to your Dad. And feel good that you were there for him. All this takes time... it will come.
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