My x-gf is pregnant and is threatning me to have our baby in Mexico, is there a law saying I wont have custody
My x-gf is pregnant and is threatning me to have our baby in Mexico or in Peru, becuase she does not want me to have full custody nor have me on any legal documents. We are no longer together after I found out she cheated on me several times. Is there a law saying if she gives birth in another country and brings him or her back that I will not have custody nor be entitled to to seeing my child. Frankly, I am going to fight for full custody only because she has a dirty past and obviously playing me dirty again by threatning me with this. What could I do, what should I do?
Please advise me.
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Ok forget the DNA test for right now, lets just say it's your baby. The first thing you should do is look into getting an attorney, and let them know the situation. My cousin just went through a situation similar to this. The court put a plan into action that the children could not leave the state without the other parents permission. The whole Mexico thing sounds like she's just trying to scare you into doing whatever she wants you to do. Stay positive and don't do anything you will regret.
How do you know it's yours, if she cheated on you so many times?
Let her threaten - she's only trying to get a rise out of you. She knows she's entitled to money for child support. I bet you there's no damn way she'll actually do that.
I dont think so. You should just change your name and leave the country. On the safe side.
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how do you know its yours?
you said she cheated...
and if a court sees you are the father, with a good job... and all... and her past is tainted... good chance you will get the kid
Good grief, what did you do?? never mind, not my business. SHe doesn't have to go to mexico to keep you from getting full custody. If she's threatening you, she should at least know how our court system works. You're not married, and never were, so a custody battle would be futile.
no i do not think there is
my advice:
don't date disgusting loser woman with "dirty pasts".
u have to go to court to get custody if u want look nice get a good job if u want the judge to look kindly on u and look responsible
Wait until the baby is born. Discreetly have dna testing done. if the baby is yours, you have rights as a father--and obligations to support your child. You'll have no trouble legally, assuming you've committed no crimes. But be sure you're doing this because you care about the child. Your question sounds more like you're mostly interested in hurting your ex.
i think if you have the baby in Mexico it becomes a citizen then you get deported as the father then you try to run accross the boder then you get a green card and complain that your kid is a mexican citizen, then you work at the taxpayers expense for cheap and then you get hooked up with medical and other cool stuff...
wait! i have it all backwards- that's America. my bad
bring this idea to the new group i started: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/isaveameri...
You need to take a 'chill pill' until you can 'see the truth' ... this girl 'cheated' on you when you were with her, so how do you KNOW this is even YOUR child? Also, it is usually the MOTHER who has 'full custody' of a child born 'out of wedlock' and since I doubt that you want to 'marry her' just to divorce her and 'seek full custody' of this 'child' that may not even be yours ... I suggest that you see an attorney and 'find out' what you'll NEED TO DO, including getting a 'DNA test' done to see if you ARE the father, before you 'decide' you really want this child ... and ARE YOU GOING TO BE A REALLY GOOD DADDY, or are you just 'wanting to take her baby away' because she 'cheated on you' with another? PLEASE THINK HARD BEFORE YOU ACT ... it's not 'you' who counts here ... nor the mom ... it's the BABY who counts here, and I frankly doubt that either of you is 'good enough' to be the parents of a newborn child.
FIRST: Make sure it's your kid before you even think about any kind of legal action. Please do that first, because if it's not your child, then everything else is moot, and I'm sure she'll punish the poor sucker who actually fathered the child just like she's doing to you. Also, it seems to me that this is some juvenile ploy of hers to further torture you. Find some way to nip it in the bud before she really screws stuff up.
That said, as far as I know, there isn't any law that says if she has the child in Mexico and comes back, that you can't have or fight for custody. What it will do, however, is really screw things up for the child, since he won't be a citizen and she can take him back there whenever she wants to, which would be bad for you if you had custody as well. But that's another Oprah show.
You could get an attorney, and initiate proceedings to have DNA tests performed (they can do super-high-tech ones while she's still pregnant) to make sure the child is yours and then you can ask for some kind of restraining order to prevent her from taking your child and effectively making him a Mexican citizen. But that would be difficult and expensive, and based on what you said about your ex, it would just piss her off more.
What would probably be most effective is to contact the Family Court in your area and ask for mediation services, and tell them the situation. They can probably help the two of you work something out, at least before the child is born, then custody can be decided. You probably won't get full custody (unless there's a lot more behind that "shady past" remark), but you can fight to keep that child in your life and out of Mexico. And a mediator is a person skilled in the law and in relationships, and the idea is to help both sides come to an agreement that's mutual and beneficial for everyone.
Good luck.
Just because she has the kid in another country does not mean that the baby now follows the other country's laws, as long as she brings the kid back to the US. It is not where the kid is born that is the determining factor it is where the kid resides. So if she goes to a foreign country and has the kid there but comes back to the US, she has done nothing.
Why would you want to get involved with this person? She obviously has no morals and who knows what sickness her kid may have because she was fooling around. Do you realize that if you say that the kid is yours in court you will be liable for child support until the kid is 18 if is ok, or for the rest of its life if it is disabled? You must have some high-paying job to want that financial drain.
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