Advice on what can I do to feel better? will I ever?
my ex left me about two months ago after two years of domestic violence which he went jail for for four months, when he got out he came and begged me to forgiv ewhich i did as i loved him but it was all part of a plan to gain back my love and trust and then destroy me which he has almost done. he has left the rehab he was in and basically disspaearded but wanted me to know that he has another love and i should just move on well i had a complete breakdown as he had asked me to get married and was trying to get me pregnant and then gone in a day i am so hurt by his actions as i was so happy when i thought that we were finally going to be ok after ball the misery his sole intention was to break me and leave me like a peice of dirt during our relatrionship he was convicted in 3 counites and found guilty on all charges and that is only what was reported there were many times that nothing was reported now i think he has a company and is making money meanwhile he destroyed my reputation, and
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You need to get some serious therapy. I am not kidding. You have endured a terrible amount of mental and physical abuse. He is still doing this by saying he has moved on. Please do not continue any contact with him and find a really good therapist to get you through your ordeal. Good luck.
This is really something you should take to a psych. The only advice I have is to START OVER. You're you, you've got nothing to do with him now, and he was a pathetic excuse for a human being for what he did to you, and doesn't deserve your love, and feeling bad about what happened is only letting him win and get away with it on a certain level. Find a new job, or get an education so that you can do so. Make new friends, and find some that'll stick by you that you can talk to and who'll help you through this. Like I said though, see a psych, a breakdown is bad, even if you've gotten over it, because having one can make it easier for you to have another if you don't get out of the line of thinking that made you have it.
Carrie C is right in the first answer. Counselling or Therapy is the way because you have to rebuild yourself and you need the advice and help of experts, and you need to cooperate.
If you are drug or alcohol addicted you must deal with that in a group like AA. Groups really can help. You also need a battered womans group. You can do it!
Just remember, the first symptom of addiction is relapse! In other words you can't stop falling down on the job. But there is a cure.
Get help and don't give up! I did it, and you can do it also sister!
Give yourself time. You have gone through a horrible ordeal and have pain to work through. While you are healing take care not to get into another unhealthy relationship as well. Couseling would definitely help . It sounds like your ex is very aggressive and very unpredictable. If you feel you could be in any kind of danger seek assistance from domestic violence agencies and local law enforcement.
The only thing I can add to what others have already said is that I'd suggest that the counselor you get be a female over 45 years of age with experience in domestic violence.
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