What's the best way to look for a lost parent?
I have never met my father and my mother will not divulge his name under any circumstances. I am interested in knowing who he is. I have some information regarding the time and place. There are an overwhelming number of "private detectives" and .com's willing to track down parents - but I don't have a lot of money and can't afford to waste it on gimmicks or cheats. Has anyone else had success with this endeavor? Who did you use? What did you do?
More importantly - what pieces of information (aside from a name or social security number) would best benefit me in this search? I am interested in doing as much as I can on my own and being able to turn the information over to an investigator when I can do no more.
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Private detectives are usually for people who don't know either of their parents, and who don't know anyone who does know them. It sounds like all you need to do is get your mother to tell you. Really put pressure on her. Don't take no for an answer. You could threaten to cut her out of your life entirely if she won't tell you. Don't let her see her grandchildren. You could even embarrass her about it in front of her friends, coworkers, and church.
Well is his name on your Birth Certificate? If not where were your parents married ? because if you know that you can check the marraige records in that city's city hall. Ask Private detectives what you can do on your own because you dont have any money some might give you advise for free because of what your trying to do.
ask your mom's mom mabey she'll tell you if she doesn't know that your mom doesn't want you to know
You might be able to find out some information through old hospital records. Or, if you know of any of your mother's old friends they might be willing to steer you in the right direction. Good luck to you.
Honey, i can understand your situation and curiosity..And it's your right to be wanting to know who your father is. But maybe before doing that, you should ask yourself if you really need him in your life, or need to know who he is.
A woman that i know went to USA from Turkey to find her father who ran away from home when she was a kid. She found him, but he was cold as ice..She cried for many days after the reunion and she was 45 at that time..I don't know how old you are, or how strong you feel about facing this fact...but think very carefully.
Sorry i don't have any knowledge or idea about how you can do it, but i wish you luck in the whole process!
Hey, and i've heard that it's been scientifically proven that it takes 6 people in a row to reach and contact somebody you have no trace of. For example think about where your father lived. Then contact just an ordinary person you know in that area. Give him another hint to help him decide who he should contact next, don't forget he will make this decision. He will contact the next ordinary person he knows in that field/position/area. It will go on like that up to 6 people. Hopefully the 6th person will be your father!
Good luck!
Be absolutely certain you want to know.
Because it might be grampa or an uncle.
Or maybe mom doesn't know, because it was a stranger who raped her in alley.
Or maybe mom is protecting the mayor or governor.
Or maybe mom is not certain because there is 9 potential fathers.
Whoever he is, I am certain mom has a really good reason for not wanting you to know. And it might be to protect you. So be prepared if you find out, you may very well wish you never found out.
I had a freind who begger her mom and then hired a private detective. At 23, for $5000 dollars, she found that her father and great grandfather are the very same person. Yes, he raped his own granddaugher when she was 16 (actually he had been raping her since she was 12, she got pregnant when she was 16, he died in prison when my friend was 6.) She regrets learning the truth and wishes you should go back to speculating about him being some '007 type secret agent.
That being said you know roughtly when the even occured (about nine months before you were born.) Her family likely knows, but Grandma & aunts are probably sworn to secrecy. So don't ask about it. Start inquiring about who her friends were when she was growing up, etc.
If she was in high school at the time, get a copy of her high school yearbook. If she was working, find out where she was working and who her coworkers were. Go to the court house and find out if she was the victim of a rape.
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