Punished for taking your child to school & them allowing him to walk out?
has anyone else had such luck? This happened to me 5 years ago but still winds me up when I think of it. My eldest son was always bunking or being disruptive so was sent home, in the end I used to physically take him to school & walk him into the office where he got a mark for being present but, by the time I got home I would have a call from the school saying he had walked out or he would be sitting on the doorstep. I offered to escort him to lessons, or even sit in on some of his lessons but was told no as it would be in breach of the schools policy. I was taken to court & despite being able to prove I tried my damdest to keep my son in school I was the first mother in my borough to be given a 12 month conditional discharge, the school wasn't penalised at all but justified my son being able to walk out of school because they couldn't physically hold him there, where is the justice in that? I know its ancient history now but it still makes me so angry sry little vent going on lol
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This is what your friendly neighbourhood PC Brigade have brought you. School staff are now so afraid of being sued for assault on children that they can no longer maintain discipline. Sorry, but someone has to be made answerable for your child's behaviour and, as it cannot now be your child because of crass laws that have been passed, it has to be you. The school's hands have been tied by the do-gooders.
Either you want your kids subjected to reasonable discipline, or you want cases like this. You cannot have both. The question in my mind is: If this is how your child is behaving now, what is he/she going to be doing in five to ten years' time? If he/she is not taught acceptable behaviour then he/she will not be able to learn what are the acceptable limits of rebellion.
And no, I don't advocate beating kids with canes, rulers or any other implements. (Someone is bound to mention it if I don't disclaim). Every child has its own mind and should be encouraged to express themselves, but equally they should be made to learn the point at which such expression becomes offensive to society. Under today's laws the latter cannot happen.
its his fault he walks out.
It's just how it is. You are his parent and he is your responsibility. It is up to you to make sure he goes to school and stays there. There was no reason to penalize the school.
I am a bit surprised the school didn't have you escort him from class to class and sit with him. Some of our truancy judges order that in the worst cases, and it seems to do the trick in very short order -- the delinquent doesn't want mommy or daddy in school with them.
Hi there Lita, I really do sympathise with you and can understand how angry you are. The courts were so wrong to punish you when you made the effort to take him to school. However, I would have tried waiting in my car outside the school, all day for a while. I would have taken books, magazines and crosswords to keep me occupied. Having said that, some parents work and would not be able to do that. I do believe that the school should have done a hell of a lot more to find ways not to allow your son to simply walk out of school. The justice system is so utterly and completely wrong. I have also had my gutfull of the unjust court system...that is a long story, but I do know where you are coming from believe me. Try not to be bitter and to let this make you angry. It is in the past...its history...let it go. You know in your heart that you are a good mum and that you did all you could. So to hell with what the courts said and did!!! The people that matter dont mind, and the people that mind dont matter!
had exactly the same problem with my eldest about 10 yrs ago-each day id take him-even sit him down in class then id get home to a phonecall saying hed gone agaoin-he never came home though hed spend his day in the city etc-its not fair no. i never got prosecuted as they called it school refusal on his part so they couldnt prosecute me for non attendance. you say hed be back on your doorstep when u got home? i assume you let him in? well what parent wouldnt but as soon as u do this your allowing him to stay off school.-and this is probably the way the education authority saw it. its sad that u got a criminal; record when you tried all you could-i assume hes now left school and is quite sorry for what he put u through? i know m9ine is the little swine lol
This is tough on you, but just a situation created by the lefty pinkoes that have managed to deviod society of respect and discipline.Why didn't you get his father to exercise his authority on your son?
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