I saw someone get a public spanking yesterday! Should i have called the police?
Yesterday i was at the mall, and i saw a boy who looked to be about 6 or 7 get a public spanking! I didn't see what he did, but his mom sat down on a bench, took him over her knee, and spanked his butt about 10 times! I had no idea anyone still beat their kids like that in this day and age, i would like to think that our society has moved beyond solving problems by beating children on a sexual region of their body. Should i have called C.P.S., or maybe the police?
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I am a mandated reporter of abuse for the state of Illinois. And it is my job by lae to report any thing I deam abusive as far as children are concerned.
What's interesting is I do believe in spankings but I am againt child abuse and neglect. My rational is this... There is a huge difference between abuse and a spanking. I wouldnt bruise or seriously injure a child but I will hit them on the bottom or hand to show that there are consequenses to their actions. Time out to me is a crock and sometimes talking just doesnt work. Not all children respond to it. Just like all children respond to spankings. You have to decide what works for that child in the area of discipline.
Growing up if I thought I would get a spanking for something I wouldn't do it. So in my case it was effective. Kids today are completely out of control. And they need stern rearing.
I don't view the bottom as a sexual area and not all things about the body are related to sex but easily can be. You don't hit a child on anything sexually related... the anus is for release of waste from the body first. It's related to sex according to peoples prefernces last. Just like an earlobe or a sensitive area on the neck.
I don't think everyone is capable of properly chastising a child because of control issues. Some people over do it. But when it is all said and done...I don't want anyone telling me how to discipline my child as long as I am not doing anything to seriously harm them. A true discipline out of love spanking has never killed anyone.
Sure, you could have. But it's best to mind your own buisness.
spanking is not against the law.
While I think a smack across the face would have worked, you are wrong. Parents can discipline their children, and if it takes a punishment in public, so be it. This has nothing to do with "our society has moved beyound..." because alot of parents consider "taking away the xbox 360" a punishment and this reflects badly. Teach the kids early. And it was not "beating" a child.
Were they spanking with their hand? If so, the police are probably not interested.
You dumb @ss liberal moron. You need a good @ss whooping yourself. Its the kids of people like you that turn out to be little hoodlums. If you do not disciple your kids, you have NO business having them. Someone really needs to kick your @SS!
for what?
Kids need a good beating once in a while. This talking discipline is not working.
Its about time some parents start spanking their little heathens!
I wouldn't consider that a beating. You obviously were raised where spankings didn't occur. It needs to come back.
i must admit, that is really out in the open for that lady to do that. but really you have no say in what she does as a parent. so keep quiet
yeah, spanking is not beating. and personally i think parents should spank their kids, that whats wrong with a lot of they younger people today they got away with everything, no consequences, so they think they can just do what ever they want to do.
No -parents cant win in this situation, if they dont spank people like you say well she should have better control, why doesnt she have better control and on and on. but when she spanks and makes the child behave you automatically think about CPS. The child had pushed his Mom past her point - and he reaped the benefits of his actions. Good for her!
Calling the cops would embarass the parent and make her take it out on the kid worse when they got home. Plus, depending on the cops, they would probably belittle you, even though your instincts are correct.
I have stared at people with my mouth open at times like that and they get embarassed, which gets the point across. But the essence of your question is whether what she was doing was child abuse. The answer is yes. Plus, she was teaching the kid that hitting is a way to solve problems. But a lot of people are really twisted on that point, which is why war is still an option in our culture. You're on the right track. Study social psychology.
I believe that it is only against the law if there is a mark left on the child. (in the UK anyway).
It's a hard situation to be in but if the mother feels that this is the best way to discipline the child then i believe it is the police forces job to intervene for making laws against spanking, and not the business of the general public of which 99% got a good old spanking in their childhood anyway!
Little rodent probably deserved it. Mind your own damned business.
How was the child hurt? My guess is that his naughty act that deserved the punishment won't occur again.
Had you called the police, you would have had the family seperated while they investigate. The children would have been sent to a strangers house in the foster care system. Every act the parets had committed since the day they turned 18 would have been investigated with the slant on them being abusive.
Thank you minding your own business and not destorying a family.
You gotta be kidding!!
First, the BUTT IS NOT A SEXUAL REGION!
Second, the BUTT is padded enough that you are not going to hurt someone by swatting them.
Third, spanking is not beating.
Fourth, I have swatted my children on a rare occasion. They understand that if they willfully disobey me, they will get a swat. Because of this understanding, that inapropriate behavior has consequences, they rarely misbehave, and I have spanked my 17 year old 3 times in her life, and my 14 year old 5.
As for this person you saw, I bet you exagerated the 10 times because you were shocked by it. If more people would publicly swat their kids, there would be less misbehavior because the child would not want the embarrasment. Of course people like you probably thought the embarassing things done in Abu Gahrib were torture, and feel that the misbehaving child suffered emotional distress...pathetic!
Finally, unless there is damage being done to the child (and a spanking does not constitute damage) MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!
Obvious...you are obviously out of your mind. It is pathetic to think that an occasional swat is teaching that hitting is good. The reality is that occasionally, a child needs to have the consequences outweigh the actions.
You said spanking of a boy. That implies that his behind was spanked rather than a sexual region of his body. That is not abuse. In fact many parents still spank their children. It is proper punishment.
i will spank my 5 year old in public if he is misbehaving. and since you didnt see what the boy did, then you dont know why he is getting a spanking. 10 times i think you are over doing it...but i actually had a lady follow me in the bathroom and ask me if i needed help. and i said no i dont need help spanking my son...she preceed to tell me that i could do other things other them spanking my son. and i told her she needs to mind her own business and my son will not act like your kids screaming throughout the store. maybe you need to try it. and i told her if she feel that i am a bad parent for spanking my son 3 times then she needs to call the police. but she didnt she followed me around the store thinking she was intimidating me and i continued to treat my son the way he was acting..so i assume you have kids and they are very well behaved and dont do anything wrong? lol i could see if she was hitting him with a belt or an object or just didnt care where she was hitting him but come on the butt she spanked him...i wonder if you have kids that are perfect and you are the perfect parent to tell another parent how to raise there child..you gotta be an upper class person.
Oh come on... Sometimes spankings are what these kids need, so they don't turn into little juvenile delinquents. Have you ever noticed that since it became taboo to do things like spank children, there's been an increase in juvenile offenses?
If parents did that more often, the number of kids diagnosed with ADHD would plummet.
no, let the parent do her job.
I think it is not appropriate to spank in public. But spanking remains a valuable tool for parents to use as needed... only in private.
thats not beating the kid!
and the butt is NOT a sexaul region.
spanking works fine as a form of displine, and if thats what the parents do, then why is it such a big deal to you? it has nothing to do with you - but if the parents starting beating him up, like punching him and stuff i could understand your point!
but 10 swats over clothes! thats not even a proper spanking!
Elinor xxx
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