I need some support. Will you please offer it?
I am going through a hard time right now and have found some comfort in talking to a guy named Wes. He runs a hot-meal kitchen I visit. He reminds me of a grandpa figure. I was told by staff at the shelter I am staying at that I cannot discuss things with him that occur in the shelter any more. I am not sure why, but it was after a discussion between another client of the shelter, staff, and myself. The head-staff member told me that I was not to repeat any of what was said in that meeting to anyone, including Wes or I would be suspended for 60 days.
There goes the one person I was able to turn to as I am fighting my homeless situation. I feel trapped. I feel like I have to keep it inside now.
The psychiatrist I saw today (I had another mental breakdown at the meal site) said that it broke a few laws for staff to tell me that. (BTW I didn't share with the psych dr the exact discusion, just that there was one.)
What would you do if you felt everything collapsing?
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the one thing that always makes me keep going no matter how bad a situation is, is that it can get better. sometimes it might take alot of trying, but don't you dare tell yourself that things wont get better. they can. keep your chin up.---To Flowergirl (first response): go **** yourself you ******* whore ***!! maybe she's at the public library you ******* idiot!! you never know how bad of shape people are in. just wanted to make sure you knew how bad you ******* suck!---whatdya know...additional details! writing from the library!! called that **** *****!! **** you.
So you have no place to stay, no food, and no family? Yet you have a computer? Hummmm... Not only do you have access, you are on here enough to be a top contributor...I know, why don't you spend less time here, and go get a job?
Edit: The longest you have been online, according to your earlier post, was 12 hours. That is a long time to be in the lirbrary!
I'm sorry that I don't know what to say, but let me say this.
You can do anything that you set your mind to.
Wes is still with you and supporting you, even if you can't speak with him about it.
Are you religious? If so, go to your clergyman or church. The Lord will always listen to prayer.
I am not a preacher and I am not even a really good Chirsitan.. but I have found in the dark points of my life, I could always turn to God.
I hope this helps a little.
Well if you can't talk to him then you should look for someone else to talk to. I don't know if you have any religious beliefs or not but you could always try to find a non-denominational minister to talk with.
I would escape into my creative outlet, it helps me work things out.
you are only as strong as you think you are. with diligence, and patience, you have the power to overcome your situation. everyone hits some kind of hard time in thier lives. be persistant in finding your way out of your dilemma. set up a plan, and stick to it. do not deviate, and you will succeed. good luck.
If you want to continue receiving the services the shelter offers, then you have to respect their rules. It seems like you've been spending a little too much time with Wes and depending on him too much; perhaps the content of your discussion with him was inappropriate.
Remember that ALL the people at the shelter, from the psychiatrist to the head of staff to the volunteers, are there to help you... but as individuals they may not be qualified or able to provide you the specific help you need. Wes is there to provide you with hot food, not advice. If you want someone to talk to, ask the head of staff if you can attend a homeless support group, or start one of your own.
Ultimately, none of these people can save you or rebuild your world - only you can do that. They can help, but you have to be in charge of your own salvation.
I kinda agree with Flower Girl, because you seem to be on here a lot -- I don't know your situation or whether or not it has anything to do with why you're homeless, but it is a good point.
I think you need some counseling. Obviously talking to Wes was helping you, but since you can't talk to him, there have to be some other options. It also seems kinda weird that you're forbidden to talk to him about your situation, especially since he works in a free lunch kitchen. But talk to the people at the shelter or at a local church about support groups or counseling.
homeless and you have a computer? what is it? a laptop? and how do you maintain the connection? aren't you a top contributor? how did that happen?
psychiatrist? you are seeing a psychiatrist? how much does that cost?
wait! let me guess! you are homeless so i am sure it costs you nothing...i am sure the doc does it out of the goodness of his/her heart? nay? of course!
i would make the following suggestions...
stop feeling sorry for yourself...get your stuff together...get a job...get an education...and stop living off others...
that will make you feel better about yourself...and proud of achieving something other than complaining that someone told you not to gossip...
you stay in a shelter? probably these people didn't want you spreading stories about others who live there...and perhaps..just perhaps they know the guy...and know he can't keep anything to himself...either!
you need support? you mean more support?
stop looking to others to solve your problems and start taking responsibility for your own life...
Look at the contract you signed when you became part of the shelter. See if anything in that contract forbids you to "repeat any of what was said in that meeting to anyone, including Wes or (you) would be suspended for 60 days."
If you ask me I would repeat what was said to the Police or DA's office by sending them an anonymous e-mail. There will be an investigation but you should be protected. At least e-mail them your situation w/o specifying details, then see what they have to say.
I would also create an anonymous myspace acct and post what happened on a blog and put in time and dates of what happened who was present and what was said. keep your profile private, then when it's time make it public, write your local newspaper or TV station and go from there.
Good luck to you. God Bless You.
Boy i notice everyone had alot to say, but no one offered to be a friend to this person, this person needs someone in her ball park so how about some knidness and try and be her friend?
Hi Honey. I think you have your hands more than full & certainly deserve the support you are seeking. :-)
I would tell your psychiatrist the exact conversation that transpired between yourself, "another client of the shelter, staff etc"..He is required by law to keep what you say to him confidential as it's deemed "Physician/Patient Confidential Information". Unless you sign a release, he cannot say what you tell him.
I'm sure if you ask your Psychiatrist, he will tell you the same thing. Then you will be able to still take to someone about all your concerns and not worry about anyone taking any action against you. ie: "suspended for 60 days".. You would be able to seek support from your Psychiatrist.
Personally, I wouldn't discuss anything with this "Wess" other than the weather. Since he runs the "hot-meal kitchen", he like anyone else at the shelter, is obligated to follow all rules. So he, like you, would not want to discuss anything anymore.
However...you saving grace will be found in your psychiatrist. You can tell him anything and feel safe.
You didn't mention if you are working...if so, maybe there's a girlfriend you can chat with. Or some family member, relative or some other friend that doesn't have anything to do with the Shelter. Hopefully there is someone.
Prayer also works wonders.and even if it feels that "everything is collapsing".that's just for a moment in time. You will be back on your feet soon and things will get better. I'm sure you have some guardian angle that watches over you and you don't realize it just yet. He or she is there and things will work out. Promise.
I will keep you in our prayers.
Many heavenly blessings, Patti
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