Harassing phone calls via ex-husband?
Today, I have received numberous harrasing phone calls from my ex-husband. I do not have caller i.d., or phone block. I have hung up on this person, more than once today.
Oklahoma State Law states:
Harrassing Phone Calls. State and federal laws make it a crime to place obscene or harassing phone calls, The penalty is a fine and/or imprisonment.
Eventually, I will have to get call -blocker, and caller i.d.And I know there is anonomous call rejection as well.
Any suggestions? Other than what I stated? Thanks!!
Answer:
check the laws but I think you can record the phone conversation as long as one of the people involved is aware that it is being recorded. Record the guy, file a restraining order and use the recordings as proof. That will stop him AND create a paper trail if he becomes more... aggressive.
buy a 10 dollar answer machine from walmart,, simply state on the message,, all calls are recorded and monitored,
he will stop
Record the calls. I agree with the first answerer.
Until you have an answering system, keep a notepad and pen near your phone. Record the date, time and nature of each call. Note as much detail regarding the call as you can.
You'll have to check your state laws, but in my state it's legal to record a conversation between two people, as long as one of the parties (you) is aware that the call is being recorded. You can pick up a recorder pretty cheap ($30 or so) from a place like Radio Shack, or even eBay. If it's legal in your state and you can spare the $30, buy a recorder and record the calls. Sounds silly, but even though it's all recorded, still keep your paper log of the date, time and nature of each call.
I agree with the suggestion to purchase an answering system to screen the calls. That way you won't have to be directly subjected to the verbal abuse, and won't feel compelled to respond/react. Lack of response/reaction on your part will likely go far. Make sure that you save any messages you receive and, if possible, get an answering system that adds a date/time stamp to the message. Also, keep in mind that even though you can save messages when you have voicemail through your telephone company, many of the companies delete the saved messages after 1-2 weeks. So, it's probably better to have an old-fashioned recorder that will allow you to save the messages for longer if you need to.
You haven't mentioned whether or not you and your ex have children together and if so, whether you're the custodial parent. If you do, it becomes uber important to record the nature of all calls. Most states require that the custodial parent allow "reasonable" telephone contact with the children to the non-custodial parent. Because of this, if you do have children together, you probably won't be able to get a call block on his number. If he does call and speak with the child(ren), note the date and time of the call, and the fact that he did speak with the child(ren). I stress the importance of logging the nature of the calls, because he could always try to claim that he was just trying to speak with his children. Having a log of all calls handy will help to add merit to your case.
Gather as much of the evidence as you can using the above methods and use it to apply for a restraining order to prevent him from making harassing calls. Continue to maintain the same records as above if he violates the order after the order is in place. Chances are, though, that he'll back off once he sees the restraining order and realizes how much proof you have.
It all sounds like a lot of work, but it's really the only thing you can do to stop it. Unfortunately, the courts want to see proof, and the burden of providing it typically falls upon the person being harassed in cases like this.
I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a difficult time. I know firsthand how difficult it can be with a harassing ex. I wish you the best of luck!
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